Two Common Teenager’s Problem That Can Be Combatted
Nowadays teenager’s problem are around every corner. With today’s technology, there has never been an easier time to be a bully. However, thanks to the internet, cell phones, and social media sites, bullying can take place 24 hours a day, 7 days a week making it one of the top teenager’s problem. If you have experienced cyberbullying, you are not alone. More than 50 percent of teens in the United States report they have been the victim of cyberbullying, with 1/3 of them reporting their bully also threatened to physically harm them.
Low self-esteem is also another common of teenager’s problem. In fact, 7 in 10 girls feel they do not measure up in some way, including school performance, appearance, and relationships. Both victims of cyberbullying and offenders report significantly lower self-esteem than those who have not experienced this common teenager’s problem.
Bullying has been a teenager’s problem since the beginning of time and unfortunately, it is unrealistic to believe we can put an end to bullying altogether. However, that doesn’t mean that anyone being subjected to cyberbullying should resign themselves to living with it. After all, a bully is only as powerful as you allow him to be.
Ignore your cyber bully.
Putting a stop to cyberbullying begins with empowering yourself. While you may not realize it now, most bullies are just people who are looking for the attention they are missing in their daily lives. In most cases, bullies shy away from people with confidence because they are more likely to show no reaction. When they do not receive their desired response of intimidation or fear, they will begin to question themselves and their tactics, leaving them to move on.
It requires patience, awareness, and strength, but you must learn to ignore your bully. Never respond, regardless of how untrue or hurtful their comments may be. This won’t end cyberbullying overnight, but once your bully understands that you aren’t impacted by their taunts or comments, they will move on.
This is often painful, but you it is critical that you save abusive text messages. If you are bullied via the internet, take a screenshot of the page and report it to an adult you can trust. Not reporting the problem tends to make cyberbullies more aggressive because they believe they are getting away with their behavior.
Prevent your cyberbully from contacting you.
Block their cell phone number and email address, as well as delete them from your social media contacts and make your profiles private. You may also want to report their behavior to any websites they use to reach you and their internet service provider (ISP).
Share your feelings.
Under no circumstances should you deal with this on your own. While you do not have to tell everyone what is going on, you do need to tell someone you completely trust, whether that’s a relative, counselor, teacher, or friend. While talking about it will not change the situation, it can make a significant difference in regards to how you feel. If your cyber bully threatens you with physical violence, you MUST report it immediately to a trusted adult.
Don’t fall into the trap of blaming yourself.
While this isn’t always easy to do, remember this is NOT your fault. Regardless of what is said, you should NEVER be ashamed of you are or how you feel. Self blame is one of the most common reasons teens who are cyberbullied are more likely to suffer from low self-esteem.
Don’t dwell on it.
Again, this is something easier said than done, this is important. After taking a screenshot, delete the actual text and/ or don’t return to the webpage where the cyberbullying took place. Reading their messages over and over is in no way beneficial and will only impact your self-esteem.
Instead, focus on positives in your life. When you catch yourself dwelling on the situation, find something positive to balance it out. Additionally, to help improve your self-esteem, write down 3 positive things about yourself and/ or 3 things that went well today due to your actions or effort.
To take your mind off bullying and to enhance your self-esteem, try something new and take pride in your new skills.
Quiet your inner critic.
If you are struggling with self-esteem issues, give yourself a break. Ignore your harsh inner critic. For teenager’s, problems are around every corner. Don’t add unnecessarily to them by thinking badly about yourself.
If you are currently being cyberbullied, you can take some comfort in knowing that you are not alone. While this doesn’t make it right or mean that you have to put up with it, it can be comforting.